Coping rejection dating
I wound up crying over yet another dating disappointment when the pain from the last ones was still so fresh.
Through it all, my friends were repeating the same thing, a dating mantra of sorts: "Don't take it personally." And sometimes, "You didn't even meet him.
In December, a guy I went to high school with started messaging me on Facebook.
That escalated to texting every day, phone dates, and him bringing up visiting me over Valentine's Day weekend (he was in the Midwest, I'm in New York City).
This is a way to comfort myself without deciding that I hate men, and also feel compassionate for them while still being kind and gentle to myself.
And a few days after that, he said he wouldn’t be able to make it until April, and actually, this wasn’t going to work and he couldn’t do it anymore. Six weeks later, I met a guy I through Tinder, which so rarely happens it’s like the unicorn of dating experiences.Seriously – coping with dating rejection can be an emotional nightmare.A lot of times you will hear the pain minimized or someone who does not know you will write an article about how it really is not that bad.While it’s still hard for me to not take it personally when a guy I know and like does something insensitive, I can let it roll off my back when someone I don’t know does, even when he’s cute and seems interesting.Like a few weeks ago when another Tinder match I hadn’t met yet cancelled a date, promising to reschedule, and I never heard from him again, I didn’t even a shed a tear—or download one meditation app.