Dating man 16 years older than me
He was an attractive, intelligent guy who would have taken a bullet for me.
But there was no chemistry; getting intimate felt more like a requirement than a good time. And this kid, Ryan*, at the rehearsal dinner kept asking me to dance.
If a young woman was interested in the man I was with, she might ask if I was his mother.
My male friends would diminish my boyfriends, assuming the relationship was just about sex. Men can do this—Larry King, Michael Douglas, President Trump—why can't a woman?
During a slow dance, I looked into his eyes, and he took my hands in his.
I said, "I'm not very good at this." And he said, "Don't worry, Susan. I'll show you." I got goosebumps all over my body and felt like I was 14 again.
I should also mention this: I've never wanted to get married or have children. I think being such a "free spirit" has made it difficult for men to gauge my age.
At first, I thought he felt sorry for me, sitting alone with the older women, but he kept dancing with me.
Of course, not all young men find older women attractive. The younger men I've dated are very bright, and they're deeply emotional.
They're hungry for someone who sparks their curiosity, someone who can teach them.
For a year, I would often give him advice about the girls he was dating, and we'd have long talks about psychology and spirituality.
I thought of myself as his mentor; never in my wildest dreams did I think he would fall for me. I've never said that to a woman before." I was so moved by his sincerity that I went uncharacteristically mute.
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