Dating thank you
I have been separated and divorced for two years now, which has allowed me to have a decent number of dating and relationship experiences.In a few cases I found myself dating someone that either called me needy or described my behavior in a way that I would interpret as needy.Unfortunately, about a quarter of the population has an avoidant attachment style and the other quarter has an anxious attachment style.The anxious person is hypersensitive to the little signs that the other person in the relationship is pulling back or not showing the same level of interest.He told me that he read the book after the breakup and realized that he had an anxious attachment style in relationships.He also realized why she broke up with him, because her avoidant attachment style caused her to feel they were getting too close and she needed to pull away.Even if he won’t agree that something is wrong or he tries to deflect it back on you like it’s your fault for reading into things too much, don’t be deterred. And don’t expect that you can keep him or her at the level of closeness that you desire. Now that I’m armed with this knowledge of relationship styles, I’m in search for someone with an attachment style like mine or someone that has a secure attachment style.
The guy I dated briefly this month gave me a gift that served as a huge aha! I could never repay him enough for this enlightenment he brought into my life about relationships.In one relationship, I finally broke up with the guy because I got so tired of trying to express my needs, only to be rebuffed.It has been five months since we broke up and he still texts me to see if I want to get together as friends with the hopes that he can win me back.My friends told me he was likely just busy and not to stress about it.But for me, I could sense the change and I interpreted this behavior as sudden disinterest.