What to say to a woman online dating
This was during the few days of iphone hell, when the “I” was changing, but the message originally said “Ethiopia I guess.” How easy would it have been to just put a “What is your favorite place? ”I borrowed another screenshot from a friend that was almost the exact same scenario: How hard would it have been to add “Where are you thinking of vacationing? Sometimes, a conversation does just run its natural course.
In the early stages, it can feel awkward abruptly changing the subject. And hopefully you have swiped on someone with interesting photos and/or a good bio, and you have something else you can ask them.
But, when I go out of my way to send stuff other than “hey” or “how are you,” I often get a curt response that doesn’t really make me want to continue the conversation.
If someone reaches out, and you are interested in talking to them, talk to them!
I never realized how much “like attracts like” in that I am often surrounded by people who are similarly skilled at conversing.
Whether through choice of school programs and extracurricular activities in college (I was a public relations major and I was in a sorority, both of which required a certain level of communications skills), or fields of work post-graduation (I work in nonprofits which tend to not only attract a wide variety of employees, but also a very diverse clientele), I’ve mostly always been around people who are pretty decent at holding a conversation. Trying to talk to men on dating apps is so horrifically painful.
I didn’t know it was possible for people to be so horrendous at conversation.
A few month ago I wrote a “how to ask a woman out from a dating app” guide for men, but lately I have realized that people need even more basic instructions than that.
They need to know simple tips for having a normal conversation.